BY WILLIAM CROSS, FSA SCOT
TOM MITFORD: A FEARFUL OLD TWISTER
1904 : Tom’s parents
Hon. David Bertram Ogilvy
Freeman-Mitford and Sydney Bowles
marry.
1904 : Tom’s
sister Nancy born 28th November.
1907 : Tom’s sister Pamela born 25th November.
1909 : Tom born 3rd January at
1909 : Tom baptised on 10th February as Thomas
David Freeman-Mitford.
1910 : Tom’s sister Diana born 17th June.
1911 : Tom at
1914 : War
declared on 28th July.
1914 : Tom’s sister Unity born 8th August.
1914 : Tom’s
father David goes to war with the Northumberland Fusiliers.
1915 : Death of Tom’s uncle Hon. Clement Freeman-Mitford heir to the Barony of
Redesdale, eldest brother of David on 13th May.
1915 : Tom’s father David becomes heir to the Barony of Redesdale on 13th May.
Tom becomes an ‘Honourable’.
1916: Death of Tom’s paternal grandfather ‘Bartie’
Freeman-Mitford: Lord Redesdale 17th August.
1916 : Tom’s father David becomes Lord Redesdale, Tom is
next heir in waiting.
1917 : Tom’s sister Jessica born 11th September.
1918-9 :
1919: Asthall Manor : Acquired as the new Mitford Family
1919: Tom goes off to
1920: Tom’s sister Deborah born 31st March.
1922 : Tom’s maternal grandfather ‘Tap’ Bowles dies 12th
January.
1922 : Tom goes to
1922-1928 : Tom’s
1924-7 : Tom joins
1926 : David ,
Tom’s father, pet family name of ‘Farve’ takes a long lease on 26 Rutland
Gate, South Kensington, London SW7 with adjoining stables and a Mews flat. The
Cotswolds home become Swinbrook House.
c 1928 : Tom loses his virginity with Baroness ‘ Baba’
De’ Erlanger, having previously engaged
in homosexual affairs at
1928 : Tom leaves
1922-1930s : Tom’s six sisters reach their ‘coming out’
years as debutantes and are presented at Court by their mother,
1928 : Tom begins his travels through Europe, including
to
1928-1939 : Tom
stays as a paying guest at Castle Bernstein
meets Count Janos
Almassi and his neighbours including two
sisters, the Countesses Erdody. Tom remains in close touch with regular visits
for a decade and more and has intimate affairs with them ( almost certainly
sexual/ deviant).
1928 : Tom has romantic flings in
1929 : Tom returns to
1929 : Tom enrols as a trainee barrister at the
1920s-30s : Tom shares a flat with
1929 : Bruno Hat Hoax – Tom is
later importuned by Lytton Strachey.
1929 : Tom meets Tilly Losch ( Austrian ballet dancer and
later Hollywood actress) in
C1929-1944 : Tom has a series of carnal affairs with
numerous women including Baroness Baba
D’erlanger, Doris Castlerosse, Lady
Diana Cooper, Janetta Woolley, Penelope Dudley Ward, Sheilah Graham, Barbara, Countess of Moray, Lady Carolyn Paget, La Jana, and
Tilly Losch.
1930s : Tom is flying with the
Auxiliary Air Force and has an accident.
1930-1: Tom is a part of the Mitford family ski-ing and
skating trips to
1932 :Tom is called to the Bar and begins to seek
briefs and has own
1933 -1940s : Tom is active in the Territorials – “
1930s : Tom is
involved in running “ The Worst Play Club” and regular first nighter.
1933 : Tom provides support to sister Diana in her
divorce from Bryan Guinness.
1933-34 : Tom’s affair with Tilly Losch reaches a crisis
point with Tilly’s divorce from Edward James.
1934 : Tom is junior consul in the Haddon “ Letters to
the King” blackmail scandal.
1935 : Tom Is junior consul in the Rattenbury Murder
defending George Stoner.
1935- 1939 : Tom is on call as aid/driver / companion for his sisters
Diana and Unity during conquest of
1936-38 : Tom’s mistress Tilly Losch leaves
1937 : Tom is involved in the “ Ward of Court”
application over elopement of his sister
Decca with Esmond Romilly. Tom defends
sister Deborah in a legal action for libel against the “Daily Express”.
1938 : Tom is a dilemma over the
1938 : Tom is made up to Deputy Judge Advocate General dealing with Court Martials.
1939 : Tom is called up for full time military service as war clouds form
over
1937-9 : Tom supports
Farve’s pro –German speeches in
The House of Lords.
1939 : Tom attends a BUF meeting at
1940-1944 : Tom is
army training and is posted with
the Queens Westminsters to
1940s : Tom ( with Muv) makes representations to Winston
Churchill to have Diana and Oswald Mosley
( interned as a danger to the
state) brought together in one prison –
and this is achieved.
1944: Tom spends 6
months back in
1945 : Tom reassigned to a Unit away from the European land mass goes as Adjutant to 1 Battn.
The Devonshire Regiment – in the
jungles of
1945 : March Tom is wounded and transferred to hospital where he dies on 30th March 1945.
1946? : Farve
has the memorial to “
A Very Perfect Son and Brother “ for Tom
placed in St Mary’s Church, Swinbrook.
1948 : Death of Unity Mitford in
1958 : Farve Dies at Otterburn, Northumberland – his last years are spent with his mistress, estranged from Muv.
1963 : Muv Dies at Inch Kenneth – the
1973 : Death of Nancy Mitford in Paris, 30th
June.
1994: Death of Pamela Mitford in
1996 : Death of Jessica Mitford in
2003 : Death of Diana Mitford in
2014 : Death of Deborah Mitford at Chatsworth, 24th
September.
The book " TOM MITFORD: A FEARFUL OLD TWISTER" will be published on 30 March 2025, the 80th Anniversary of the death of Tom Mitford from a sniper's bullet in Burma on 30 March 1945.